From my earliest years and formative memories, I knew I was different than everyone else with an instinctive need to keep my thoughts close. I remember all too well the pain and shame that always haunted me when I was first told to hide who I was, conform, and keep my head down. This created a setting where my very first conscious memories were also the first times that I clearly saw the startling hypocrisy and dysfunction in the narrow world of my childhood and family life. I knew the world around me was wrong and this set my path for life. I wouldn’t let anyone beat me down and keep from being who I am.
As the years went by, I attempted to assimilate and be like the other kids that I grew with but there was always a great divide that I was painfully aware of. I built an impenetrable wall to keep me safe from being vulnerable and feeling ejected. I loved to learn, yearned to explore the world, and knew that childhood was only temporary. I knew with great conviction that I would lead an amazing life despite my beginnings and circumstances. It’s this belief in myself that I’ve held closely throughout my life that has always been my compass and moral guide.
Still, it was hard, I was alienated by choice at times and took great joy in my solo adventures and explorations. In my teenage years, I realized that my otherness extended into my sexuality and took great pains to build an even greater wall and create an identity that would be accepted. I had so many fears but most of all I feared rejection and shame from my loved ones. No one really knew who I was, even myself at times. I became reckless and ran with a dangerous crowd. I learned to push the limits and somehow made it out alive and whole.
The darkness was with me for many years, but I knew when it was enough when it brought me to my lowest point. Thankfully I reached a place where I was completely broken. It was through this lowest point that I learned to raise myself up, increase my vibration, and once again celebrate my true self. My connection with the energy of the universe grew and expanded. Little did I know that after so many years of searching for my identity that I would one day become The Happiness Warrior.
Eventually through many self-created trials and lessons I made it to the other side and began to live in a state of happiness. The journey which had been so hard had made me stronger and more self-aware. I learned to value my inner voice and respected everything that it had taught me. Today, I feel so grateful for this hard-earned wisdom and live in the joy of life in the present. My battles had taught me to value consciousness and deliberate actions. My mission became clear and defined. Creating happiness and increasing happiness is a calling that I cannot deny.
In the years leading up to becoming the Happiness Warrior I conducted my life as if it were a spiritual journey of discovery and knowledge. I savored the unknown, entered places that had once been forbidden, and explored my subconscious thoughts and dreams. After so many decades of self-doubt and fear of revealing my authenticity, I had finally discovered my true spirit. Someone that I had hidden and covered for so long with fear, societal shame, and extreme guilt for not being honest with myself.
Although I was successful entrepreneur by any measure, I knew that I was missing out on the most important part of who I was and began to show the world my intention and dreams. Being bold and brave and revealing our vulnerabilities is a beautiful experience and one to savor. I became happier than I ever knew I could and had a mission of spreading good will, connection, and happiness to everyone. My life had changed because I sought the answers in the energy of the universe. I have floated through life at times and have learned to view my life as a magical adventure.
When the world was struck with a pandemic life for all of us changed. Many of us felt that our worlds had turned upside down and began to unharness our suppressed fears and emotions. Some became more fragile and defensive. We feared others and most of all we feared ourselves. The pandemic brought our insecurities into the light, and I set my mission on helping and bringing more peace of mind, gratitude, and thoughtfulness to everyone.
We can survive anything if we set our mindset to being better and setting an example for others. Life is always going to be a struggle but how we take control of our thoughts and behaviors is the path we can all use to move forward and continue our lives with momentum and greater happiness.
As The Happiness Warrior the one thing that I know for sure is that the hard times make us stronger and teach us everything we need to know.
COMMITMENT IS THE KEY
Understanding that we need change is everything we need to move forward with momentum in our lives.
Listen to your intuition for clues and answers to your questions. Our inner voice is the most knowing but too often we ignore it to our later regret. Be your own best friend and start listening to yourself. Learn to commit and watch your life thrive!
START SMALL AND LET THE PROCESS GROW
The first step to becoming invincible is to change your mindset to one of self-actualization and self-awareness. So many of us ignore our intuition (inner voice) and make poor decisions and choices without looking inwards to find the source. We’re conditioned by society to doubt ourselves and think as a group.
We spend too much time living in other people’s heads and following their rules when we could be living life in the present in the joy of our own creation.
What we believe about ourselves is generally a manifestation of our self-created negative thoughts and emotions. Know that you are perfect, beautiful, and unique, and your authentic self is an expression of who you are. Too many unhappy people live their lives for the expectations and selfish needs of others.
Why do we need to find ourselves through influencers without revealing our authenticity and personal values?
Understand the difference between someone who lifts you up with their love for you versus one who lives off your love and generosity.
TURN OFF NEGATIVE THOUGHTS
I’ve always believed that most of us start life positive and happy, but as the years go by society changes our feelings and eventually controls our behaviors. A few are emotionally equipped to sail through these challenges, but most of us get caught up in the idea that we’re not good enough, not attractive enough, or worthy of great things for our lives. We’re programmed to think like a group, feel shamed when we stray, and use negative words that work against us. Words have spirit and what we say and think about ourselves will become our reality. Know that you don’t deserve or need to feel anything but positive thoughts about yourself. Use self-awareness to know when your behavior might be better and forgive yourself and move on with a renewal of enlightenment and self-esteem. Smile because you’re happy. Show up for your life and share who you are!
HABITS AND CORE VALUES
Changing old habits and routines is essential for happiness and personal growth. Ask yourself what would make you happy and analyze your behaviors and patterns. Are you setting yourself up to grow and expand or are wary of change and afraid of the unknown?
Stick to what you’re good at and focus on your strengths. Recognize your good habits and systems and use these to your advantage. Our daily actions help set us up for greater long-term success and happiness. Self-awareness is a quality that we can develop that provides so much growth and understanding.
SHOW UP FOR YOUR LIFE
When we learn to strengthen our commit to our goals and values in life our confidence grows, and we can learn to master our lives. We can live with a sense of purpose and a mindset set on happiness when we keep our commitments to ourselves. Life is never easy, but all humans have the capacity to think and create their best self. Our true and authentic being that no one else needs to understand or has the power to devalue.
Happiness comes from within and the more vulnerable we are about sharing our hopes and desires is the path to living in a more optimal balance of self-esteem and clarity.
Think of the perfect outcome and know that we either succeed or fail. Life gives us opportunities and when we are committed to being our best choices are clearer and more meaningful.
Hard times are there to teach us and always provide new opportunities and direction. Strive to find meaning and ask yourself what you learned. Be honest and don’t be afraid to admit that you found your greater self in your lowest moments. That’s the secret to keeping your vibration high and raising your impact and making a difference in the world.
DO YOU WANT TO BE INVINCIBLE?
Invincibility is a mindset as much as a strength and self-created power. The healthy thoughts we have for who we are and our ability to live our lives free of shame and judgement is the foundation of living happier and more peaceful lives of our own creation. Think for yourself and ignore the voices of those you don’t trust or respect. Why would we listen to someone’s words that we don’t trust or believe in? Stop wasting time on people who aren’t completing your life and learn to say not to those who use and drag us down. Remember these rules and ways of living, they will help you maintain the best and most invincible version of yourself. A self that is ever expanding at one with the great energy of the universe:
1. Forgive yourself for the past and try to create understanding. This is how we gain wisdom and start liking ourselves better. Consider your perception then and now and apply this for those that have wronged you. Understanding why and letting it go will provide a big boost to self-esteem and productivity.
2. Embrace your unique behaviors and quirks. Don’t hide who you are for fear of rejection or shame. Let yourself be free and listen to your intuition. Smile and know that you have value.
3. Remove shame from your thought patterns. Avoid shaming others as this has a way of looping back.
4. Develop a healthy respect for rejection and fear no one.
5. Maintain a ready for anything mindset!
6. Understand the power of authenticity and the depth that it gives to our lives.
7. Self-awareness is the path to acceptance and rejection of negative self-created thinking and beliefs.
8. Attract others with positive energy and set your vibration on high!
Only when we are comfortable with ourselves, and our imperfections can we be invincible. Know that no one can take your spirit and intention. Be strong, be proud of who you are, and most of all know that you are perfect just as you were intended to be!