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  • Written by Eric North aka “The Happiness Warrior”

Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one’s definition of your life; define yourself-Harvey Fierstein

We’ve all been a casualty at times in our lives from someone who intentionally inflicted harm and cruelty on us. This can cause the scope of our lives to be altered. We can suffer, want to shrink away, and hide.

Life will always provide us with messages and choices. The sacred choice to hold ourselves up, stand tall, and knowingly listen to our spirit for the first time in our lives. This is how we find our way through any situation. The casting away of any doubt and negative emotions that is ours to accept and process fully without remorse or blame.

We can be victims and spend our lives in perpetual complaint and suffering. Or we can realize that we have the power to raise our vibration and absorb the wisdom that arises.

Unfortunately, some of the people who come into our lives will have poor intentions and self-centered objectives. This is a normal part of life and should be expected. How we understand and process these feelings and intentions is how we change the narrative from victimhood to self-empowerment. Aligned with the strength of our desires and intentions.

 We must not give in and allow others to write the story of our lives. It’s our alone to share or hold close until we feel the wisdom in our thoughts and actions.  Nothing can ever truly hurt us again when we are at peace with our authenticity and alignment with our deeply held core values and truth.

We can be randomly attacked, cheated on, fooled, embarrassed, and even injured by others. People will diminish and undermine others for the sake of their egos, reputation, greed, envy, or even more disturbing reasons. We will encounter people who love us at first sight and those who are jealous and seek to do us harm. Once we know this and understand it’s impact we can rise and find magic that surrounds us.

Most harmful are sociopaths who continually cause distress and suffering wherever they go. Sociologists estimate that between up to one out of twenty-five individuals exhibit sociopathic behavior. That is something to be thoughtful about when we have victim-like feelings. Understanding that we are “targets” and not “victims” is key to moving forward and leaving pain, suffering and betrayal behind.  Victimhood is only real if we make it real. We can only be victims if we choose to be victims!

A victim is defined as:  One who is harmed or killed by another, especially by someone committing a criminal or unlawful act: a victim of a mugging.


We have all had times in our life when we could accurately call ourselves victims by definition, but there are many times when it can be easier to feel like a victim and wallow in the trap of victimhood. We can change our mindset to be “victors” when we realize being a “victim” is a choice and not a condition!

Playing the victim is often a symptom of underlying uncontrolled anger, poor self-esteem, and emotional immaturity. Anger is a trap that grows and destroys us unless it can be understood and controlled. When we’re not able to control our feelings of anger, bruised egos, and outrage, we “voluntarily” allow ourselves to become victims. This triggers a continuous victimhood lifestyle with little chance of happiness or personal growth. Anger must be used with caution and precision.

Understanding the triggers for victimhood is the first step to turning this cycle around and living a happier and more peaceful life. Victims often create more drama to continue their victimhood. Victims live in fear or anticipation of fear and harmful acts. Victims live under darkness and shame and haven’t given themselves permssion to be happy.

Words have spirit and the words we use for ourselves are personified to affect our thoughts and behavior. Removing words from our vocabulary that impair our ability to feel happiness is the path to greater mental wellness and happiness. Happiness is always there whether we choose to ignore it or receive its blessings. Seek others who are filled with smiles and happiness. Smile back and say good morning and feel our vibration rise. Repeat every day and remove those who are negative and abusive in nature. Forgiving ourselves is a form of love that we all deserve.


When I was younger, I often felt out of place and disconnected. I grew up in a dysfunctional home, occasionally stuttered, and often spent time on my own.

Kids and adults can be mean and say horrible things, but it was always easy for me to tune them out and keep moving forward. I listened to my inner voice to maintain my sense of dignity and guided myself towards the future that I envisioned. I never thought of myself as a victim and always told myself that I had been targeted instead. Instinctively, I knew that my tormentors wanted the something special that I had that they lacked in themselves. My friends that I grew up with were the ones that I relied on and still know to this day.

I stood strong and sought to do my best, exploring the world around me. I knew that I was on the right path and had an earnest sense of what life had in store. I felt that this was a time in my life to test my resolve and always knew that I would one day live the life of my dreams.

Mindset is the key to acknowledge and understand the feelings of powerlessness that we experience in these moments. Self-empowerment and self-awareness are the key to a stronger mindset. Those with a victim mentality will always feel victimized in an emotional cycle of anger and despair. Victims cling to a losing mentality and wallow in their suffering by spreading their pain and depression with others. As humans, we can choose to add value to our lives and others when we shift our consciousness to being at peace with who we are and practice forgiveness for ourselves and others who may have harmed us.

The universe has a way of putting things in perspective and restoring balance. The concept of karma is a constant guiding force and staying true to our core values is the best way to feel like a victor and never a victim. Looking back now, I know that intuition, integrity, and staying true to myself never failed me. How right I was!


Victims and abusers often come from dysfunctional families and environments. No one wants to be a victim, but the mentality is found throughout our experience in the judgmental and shame-based control structure of our society.

Most abusers exercise control with threats, manipulation, and dependence that comes from an abusive relationship. I was often told by my abusive ex that I was ugly and stupid. We may not believe it ourselves, but if we hear it enough times it becomes reality and creates feelings of hopelessness and unworthiness. Self-awareness and intention is key to moving forward and regaining control of our lives.

People who are abused often exhibit a lot of self-loathing, destructive behavior, put themselves down, feel alienated, and stop taking care of themselves.


Recognizing situations that can create a victim mentality and taking action to change those situations is the first step to a mindset of empowerment and greater confidence in handling life’s difficulties. Complaining is the refuge of victimhood. There are no victims when we learn to stop complaining!

Life gives us challenges and sometimes pain, but how we rise above it all defines who we are and allows us to prevail. As humans, we will always feel emotions and some degree of personal suffering. How long those emotions last and what we learn about ourselves is the key. 

When we remain buried under negative emotions, it can feel like the world is against us and very bleak. Victors understand that victims who can see their misery as temporary can rise and feel at peace with themselves:

Ways to stop being a victim:

1.       Stop blaming others: Blaming others may seem like a solution, but it only prolongs pain and increases suffering. No one deserves to suffer. Forget the word “fault”, victimhood stops with self-awareness.

2.       Be kind to yourself: Learn the personal transformation that comes with forgiving ourselves for the past. Live in the present and focus on good qualities and strengths

3.       Gratitude is everything: Gratitude is the opposite of victimhood. We learn and grow from our experiences both good and bad.

4.       Remove self-created negative thoughts and emotions: When we live in a state of victimhood, we tend to feel more vulnerable, confused, and disconnected. Learn the dangers of self-fulfilling prophecies. Our inner-thoughts and words have spirit and shape our destiny!

5.       Focus on kindness and adding value: Simple acts of kindness help empower ourselves in a non-manipulative way. Positive actions will always create positive results.

6.       Let go and forgive: Anger is a powerful and destructive emotion that creates a negative downward spiral. Forgiveness increases our strength of character and helps us become happier and more at peace with ourselves.

7.       Focus on building self-confidence and empathy:  These are both innate and learned traits.

8.       Understand the source of happiness: Examine underlying feelings and remove their connection to feelings of unhappiness. Realize that personal happiness doesn’t come from external sources.

9.       Shift victim mentality to Victor Mentality: Bad things happen to good people no matter who you are. Bad things help us to adapt, survive, and even thrive. Understanding how this makes us stronger is the key to developing a “victor” mindset.

10.   Challenge reality: Our core intention is the key to creating the reality we desire. Victims tend to stay trapped in a negative mindset, often for attention.

Letting go of victimhood is the first step in setting ourselves free to be our authentic and loving selves. Once we can realize that all that we need comes from within, we can find the courage to move forward in our lives with greater confidence and happiness.

There are times in our life that we may feel unfair or confused, but the values of integrity, confidence, and self-awareness we find can find joy and gratitude in times of trouble and stress. We all have more power than we realize and once we unplug ourselves from self-created misery, we can be our best selves and live happier lives!



Eric North The Happiness Warrior

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