• Written by Eric North aka “The Happiness Warrior”

"When you are offended at any man’s fault, turn to yourself, and study your own failings. Then you will forget your anger." —Epictetus

As The Happiness Warrior, I’m constantly reminded of the contradictions in my earlier life and behaviors and how it impacts my mindset and attitude today. I’m forever grateful for the gift’s clarity and self-awareness. These are my greatest tools that always make my journey lighter.

When I was younger, I was angry and discontented. I never felt like I was in the right place and often felt disconnected. I liked being alone when I could truly be myself, I was afraid to show the world who I really was and carefully hid my needs and desires.

I was also insecure and uncomfortable with understanding my sexuality and greatly feared discovery. It was a different time, in the South, and one that wasn’t as welcoming. Much to my great shame I held back my potential. My conservative roots and values were hard to break from. My authenticity was somewhere in place that I had yet to discover. I was easily offended by others and sometimes felt the fury of insecurity. I was hurting myself more than anyone else.

As the years went by this mindset began to feel like a burden that I could shed, I began to be honest and open. I felt a release, became more connected and happier than I’d ever been. As in any life there are bad times and good, but I realized that I no longer had to feel so easily offended when began to feel secure in my authenticity. I began to see life on the other side of my fury and happiness was finally obtainable. We will always be happier when we are more tolerant and open with ourselves and others.

When I look back at my life and think about all of its trials, wonders, and adventures I also reflect on its lessons. I think about where I am now with gratitude, unrelenting purpose, and intention. I’m happy, even in moments when I feel sad. I like who I am in my presence and authenticity, and I’m no longer easily offended. This is how we raise our happiness and vibration.

All throughout my life I’ve always felt an innate need to examine my actions and think about how well I handled a difficult situation. It’s brought me moments of great self-reflection along with emotional pain and dissatisfaction. It’s also made me acutely aware of mistakes and hurts that I’ve left along the way. It’s made it easier to forgive myself and others.

To make this even more easy to understand there’s one statement I always stand by: “We never know what anyone else is thinking or going through at that moment”. Take these words to heart and feel your empathy and understanding expand!

For most of my early life I lived in a defensive bubble. Being different could make me feel hopeful and confident about my future, but the reality of the environment that I was raised in dictated my public personality and reactions. I was unsure of my sexuality and was terrified of being discovered and vulnerable much to my own guilt and shame. It made me volatile at times and my underlying insecurity made it easy for me to feel offended and angry. I lost friendships, moved around in social groups, and was emotionally unhappy with the life that I had created. I was offended by the thought of being my authentic self and exposing my vulnerability.


Offense is a learned response that’s usually caused by a state of denial in our own subconscious. Too often we hear a glimmer of truth in our answers and fear the eye-opening results. The truth is hard but it truly does set us free. When we no longer care about the opinions of others we raise our spirit and find the happiness that comes naturally within.

In my formative years, I lived in a constant state of defense and denial. Deep down I knew my truths and their opposition to familial and societal expectations. I was living a life of carefully laid lies and half-truths as a way to survive and avoid detection. I was only authentic in my private moments and the rest of my life was lived with careful walls and defenses.

Being offended can have purpose and create change, but it can also go too far and become overwhelming. Vengeance is an ugly place in our heads that destroys us. It is always dangerous and overwhelming.

When we learn to silence and tame this uncivilized part of our instinct we can allow each new emotion to move through us. We emerge as someone stronger and one to be reckoned with. We gain respect with the unwavering strength of our thoughts and actions.


We need to examine the feelings that were provoked inside us before we can reach an understanding and begin to trust ourselves.

1.       Suspend preconceived notions of malicious intent from others. We are most likely to project our own negative self-bias onto others.

2.       If our reactions feel too extreme they usually are. Take a breath and ask if it’s worth spending valuable time and energy on. It’s never as bad as we think it is at first.

3.       Be ready to give the benefit of doubt to anyone that hasn’t hurt or injured us in the past. Use good judgment and don’t be afraid to disengage and say no.

4.       Try to see negative words and judgments as constructive ways to increase your personal power.

5.       Self-absorption always leads to negative and offensive feelings. Think about the greater good and take actions that have purpose.

6.       Emotionally detach and breath before a provocation. Feel strength of conviction and know that your dignity is at stake.

7.       Always take responsibility for all consequences and actions. It’s no else’s responsibility to control our emotions and reactions. Don’t give anyone else that power.

8.       Consciously stop looking for things that offend us. This can stop the negativity cycle and creates a happier life environment.

9.       Adjust expectations for ourselves and others. Being encouraging and supportive lifts everyone’s spirit.


It’s easy for most of us to get frustrated when things go wrong and our perfectly laid plans, and pleasant expectations come to a halt. Our heart rate rises, adrenaline crashes, and we want to feel better immediately. This can cause us to make mistakes with how we treat others, blame ourselves, and lash out in anger or passive aggressive behaviors.

As The Happiness Warrior, I believe the best way to navigate through these circumstances is to take a quiet moment, breathe deeply, and think about the things that we might have done wrong. How we would do it better, and how we can overcome anything like this in the future. It’s a way to save ourselves and maintain respect and balance with others. It’s our responsibility and no one else to guide our lives. Take another path and open yourself to finding solutions and be your own happiness warrior.


We will all be happier when we stop comparing ourselves to others and realize that we are not inadequate. Most of us have hidden gifts that we haven’t yet revealed to the world that need to be discovered. When we ignore the negative people in our lives we will always prosper.

When we’re easily offended we shut the door on truth and understanding. We’ll never really know the answers until we can reserve offense and judgment. We can learn more about ourselves when we react with measure. Only then, can our power and wisdom grow.


Learning to say no is the first step in dismantling the shame and guilt that come from our institutions. Be strong in resolve, purpose, and intention. Does it give you a feeling of release and hope? Does it make you feel more honest and whole?

Our minds are powerful and more resilient than we think. Use your brain and listen to your inner voice and move forward with momentum. Our vibration rises when we settle conflict with holistic solutions. Seek a way forward where everyone feels good and feel a sense of power and fulfillment. Wisdom is acquired and we can begin to see the magic of life. We all benefit when we are more relaxed and easy going. It’s amazing what we can accomplish with a smile of empathy and understanding.

ERIC NORTH - The Happiness Warrior

How to set boundaries and live our best life

There’s no better feeling in life than when we can honestly say that in this moment, in the now, we feel content and fulfilled with our lives. It's a state of being where we’re in balance with our needs and desires. Where our purpose and core value...

How to make a better ripple

I’ve always believed that all humans are connected in the present, in the now, and all through the history of time. No matter where we find ourselves at this moment anywhere on earth, each action we take makes a difference in someone else’s life. Eve...

I am the answer

As The Happiness Warrior, I tend to gravitate towards people and places with a happier positive vibe. It’s often intentional and always purposeful. Happy people always welcome other happy people into their worlds and share their connection. They are ...

Stop the block

How many times in our lives have we felt stuck, blocked, and frustrated with our situations and ourselves? It’s a common feeling that all humans share at some time or another much to our regret and unhappiness. As The Happiness Warrior, I believe tha...

Unravelling loneliness

We all go through periods in our lives when we can feel unwanted, friendless, detached, and rejected. It might feel devastating and make us want to retreat and hide even further. If we’re lucky it can provide us a glimpse of self-awareness and hone...

Soul healing

I’ve always had a mindset for gathering facts, figures, and data. From the moment I could talk I only had questions. Reading came to me naturally, and I loved to learn the secrets of the world and the history of lives before us. Other kids often bore...

Empowerment for everyone

As The Happiness Warrior, I’ve always believed that all humans deserve to be happy, heard, and seen. It may seem impossible for some of us to feel this way and we might feel forsaken and shunned. Life is how we tell our story and not what others thin...

Enlightenment for the rest of us

As The Happiness Warrior, I believe that knowledge is power and gives our lives more meaning. Not everything important is found in books, but I set aside time daily to read and enhance my mind with new thoughts and ideas. I may not take everything to...

Awakening for beginners

It’s easy to feel like we’re lost in a shuffle where our feelings don’t matter and everything we once knew no longer applies. It can feel like time and customs are passing us by. What once looked unalterable is no longer there. Like it or not the w...

How to have the best life without trying too hard

Most of us humans are born with a nature that inspires us to be our best and create the world that we desire. It may have been trampled and carelessly discarded by the vagaries of life. But it lives on in the recesses of our consciousness by the tr...

The happy life blueprint

There was a time in my life when I was very unhappy and felt adrift. For nearly a decade I found myself feeling trapped and alone in an abusive relationship. There were times when we were good together, but I never knew which way the wind would blo...

How to be happy when your world seems upside down

As the Happiness Warrior, I define happiness as the joyful alignment of our authentic selves with our core values. Happiness is the embodiment and expression of our authenticity in our daily life and actions. Truth, intention, and empathy are the s...

Patience is power

I’ve always been very fast moving, fast talking, and quick to process new surroundings and situations. I moved forward in a hurry to escape the boundaries of my conservative upbring. I envisioned a great life that lay ahead which seemed so far away. ...

Avoid the avoidance trap

As hard as we might try to avoid the hard things in life it’s inevitable that they will someday catch up with us. The longer we avoid them the larger they become. In just the blink of an eye we can turn a slightly annoying or daily life task into a b...

A pride perspective

It’s that time of year, the month-long celebration of pride and the festivities and parades that go with it. Like it or not, it’s out there. It’s sometimes loud, unapologetic, and hard to miss. It can be personal and something that doesn’t need to be...

Self acceptance is happiness

Life is often hard for all of us. We face obstacles, sometimes we stumble, but we each have the ability to determine our attitude and mindset. No matter what we face on the journey ahead, we can learn to take ourselves in a new direction. We can ch...

Look in the mirror and like what you see

I grew up in the South at a time when it was frowned upon to be authentic and free of spirit. Being different or extraordinary was not something that was welcomed or celebrated. Stepping across the “line” was a calculated risk. It was a very hard t...

Emotional intelligence is our superpower

As The Happiness Warrior, I believe that happiness begins within our own innermost thoughts and consciousness being. Happiness can be elusive for many but when we realize that it’s entirely self-created we can begin the process of changing our live...

Metropolitan Business News

Maximizing Business Potential: The Philippines As A Leading Destination For Contact Centre Outsourcing

The outsourcing of contact centre requirements has become an integral part of business strategies aimed at improving efficiency, enhancing customer service, and driving growth. In the realm of out...

How can you mine and trade Bitcoin?

Bitcoin is a virtual currency that acts as a form of payment and is not controlled by one person like fiat money. Hence it is not controlled by a third party in financial transactions. It is paid ...

Advanced Placement Strategies for Caution Wet Floor Signs in High-Traffic Areas

A caution wet floor sign is no ordinary warning device. It serves the vital purpose of notifying individuals about treacherous and slippery conditions in an area. Its presence acts as a proactive meas...

5 Futuristic Businesses of 2023: Exploring Latest Business Trends

In today’s world, success is not measured solely by profit margins but also by the positive impact made on the world. Now, we get to experience a world where the future meets the present and creat...

Data discovery: why your business needs it for compliance

Every company has to protect their information against unwanted breaches. But organisational information expands at a daily rate, and so it becomes even more important to track the data. Organisat...

9 good reasons to start your investment journey

Are you doing the right thing by starting your investment journey? Whether you're an experienced investor or a beginner, there are many benefits to investing. Here are 9 great reasons why you shou...