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  • Written by Orit Avishai, Professor of Sociology, Fordham University
Orthodox Judaism can still be a difficult world for LGBTQ Jews – but in some groups, the tide is slowly turning

Yeshiva University, the storied modern Orthodox Jewish university in New York City, is in the midst of a legal battle over its refusal to recognize the YU Pride Alliance, an undergraduate club.

While YU does not object[1] to LGBTQ students’ presence, it claims that the club is inconsistent with Jewish teachings[2]. The Pride Alliance sued the university for discrimination in 2021, and YU countered that being required to give the club official status would violate religious freedom.

As the legal case drags on, YU made a move that outsiders may find puzzling. In October 2022, it launched a university-sanctioned alternative LGBTQ club[3]. Calling it Kol Yisrael Areivim, the administration touted this initiative as a compromise[4] balancing Jewish law and YU’s values with students’ needs for a safe space.

The controversy showcases longstanding resistance to LGBTQ acceptance in many parts of the Orthodox Jewish world. Yet YU’s decision to found its own club is, in and of itself, a sign of slow change.

I am an ethnographer[5] whose research focuses on gender, sexuality and religion, especially in Judaism. Ideas about LGBTQ inclusivity have been rapidly evolving and diversifying since the turn of the 21st century, as I document in “Queer Judaism[6],” my forthcoming book about homosexuality and Orthodox Judaism in Israel.

Exclusion and shame

The phrase “Orthodox Judaism” can refer to a wide array of traditions[7]. One of the most significant divides is between “modern Orthodoxy,” whose adherents follow traditional Jewish law but are integrated into secular society, and Haredi or “ultra-Orthodox” Jews[8], who are more segregated and claim that their interpretation of Judaism is more authentic.

Jewish law assigns many religious responsibilities on the basis of rigid gender categories, male and female. Most Orthodox Jews maintain that the Bible forbids homosexual relationships and identities, and emphasize that only marriages that consist of a husband and wife[9] are consistent with Jewish tradition.

The dozens of gay, lesbian and bisexual Orthodox Jews I interviewed[10] candidly spoke of the indignities they encountered trying to fit into these expectations: experiences of shame, secrecy, denial, repression, family drama and spiritual harm. Some had been kicked out of educational institutions, felt unwelcome in synagogue or wrestled with depression and even suicidal thoughts.

Many had seen their life plans shatter, or weathered crises of faith and a yearning to be “normal.” One anonymous contributor to a Facebook page[11] for religious LGBTQ people wrote that to be an Orthodox gay person is “to be afraid of yourself. To hate yourself. To be sure that under the mask there’s a monster and hope that it will never be revealed.”

One man I interviewed[12] was advised by a rabbi to “meet a delicate woman to show masculinity, study lots of Torah, work out. … He promised that eventually I will be attracted to a woman … fall in love, marry.” Many described harmful “therapeutic” interventions. One woman’s parents insisted that “there’s a treatment for this. There are psychologists who can help … It’s not something you’re born with, you’re not a lesbian. So if you want that will be your choice.” Research[13] has found that so-called conversion therapy to “overcome” same-sex attraction is ineffective and likely to cause significant harm[14].

Angry men shout and hold posters on the side of a road.
A protest against the Gay Pride parade in Jerusalem on July 21, 2016. Ahmad Gharabli/AFP via Getty Images[15]

Some Orthodox leaders’ views reflect a vociferous hatred of LGBTQ people – such as the far-right Israeli political party Noam[16]. Others, including at YU, walk a tightrope between what they claim to be correct Jewish tradition and the needs of LGBTQ people to have a safe space to discuss their struggles.

Slowly shifting

But the once-ubiquitous stance that Orthodox Judaism is incompatible with LGBTQ identities has been replaced in the past two decades with a more pluralistic stance. Within modern Orthodoxy, more Jews recognize LGBTQ individuals as full-fledged members of their communities. The reality is that 21st century Orthodox Jews are increasingly aware and accepting of their LGBTQ children, siblings, friends and co-congregants[17].

My book[18] documents a vibrant, proud LGBTQ Orthodox community in Israel that began in anonymous chatrooms and backrooms in the early 2000s, but is now out in the open. Organizations like Shoval[19], in Israel, or Eshel[20], in the U.S., try to nourish understanding of LGBTQ Jews’ challenges and advocate on their behalf. In addition, LGBTQ clubs have operated successfully in Orthodox-affiliated and modern Orthodox-dominated universities such as Bar Ilan[21] and Hebrew University in Israel. Even at YU, an LGBTQ club has operated in the law school[22] for several years.

Moreover, families are now far more accepting of their LGBTQ children. Whereas in the past, stories of being distanced from one’s family and community had been common – some families would even “sit shiva,” a Jewish mourning ritual for the dead[23], if a child came out – this is less often the case.

A dark synagogue with two men getting married at the front of the room.
Steve Greenberg, often described as the first openly gay Orthodox rabbi, performs a wedding in 2011 for two men. The Washington Post via Getty Images[24]

Orthodox Jewish religious leaders have also changed their tune. Whereas modern Orthodox rabbis branded same-sex attraction deviant and pathological[25] well into the 20th century, a 2021 Eshel study found that many progressive rabbis and modern Orthodox rabbis[26] have become more sympathetic to LGBTQ people’s realities. For example, 78% of rabbis surveyed, which included those serving modern Orthodox congregations, did not want to exclude the children of gay parents from life cycle celebrations. Many subscribe to what I call[27] the “tolerance without legitimacy” approach, which calls for treating LGBTQ Jews with respect and acceptance, even if it does not condone LGBTQ relationships and families.

In 2010, dozens of rabbis in the U.S.[28] and Israel[29] added their signatures to an ethical code with several key guidelines. It distinguished between homosexual orientation and practice, and clarified that Jewish law does not specifically prohibit the former. It also characterized mixed-orientation marriages, where one partner is straight and another gay, as a moral injustice, and subtly discouraged conversion therapy.

In 2016, the progressive modern Orthodox Beit Hillel organization issued a policy paper[30] urging Orthodox Jewish communities to accept their gay and lesbian members without prejudice. More recently, a handful of rabbinic authorities such as the Israeli rabbi Benny Lau have taken acceptance a step further, arguing[31] that Jewish law may in fact be compatible with some forms of same-sex and other alternative unions and families. A small but growing contingency of American Orthodox rabbis have even officiated same-sex weddings[32].

As the YU case makes clear, not all Orthodox Jews accept many of these positions. But given the rapid developments of the past decade, the university likely saw no choice but to offer its students an olive branch – and beyond YU’s campus, I believe more change is on its way.

References

  1. ^ does not object (blogs.yu.edu)
  2. ^ inconsistent with Jewish teachings (www.becketlaw.org)
  3. ^ a university-sanctioned alternative LGBTQ club (blogs.timesofisrael.com)
  4. ^ compromise (blogs.yu.edu)
  5. ^ an ethnographer (www.fordham.edu)
  6. ^ Queer Judaism (www.barnesandnoble.com)
  7. ^ a wide array of traditions (www.pewresearch.org)
  8. ^ Haredi or “ultra-Orthodox” Jews (www.harediresearchgroup.org)
  9. ^ a husband and wife (www.ou.org)
  10. ^ I interviewed (doi.org)
  11. ^ Facebook page (www.facebook.com)
  12. ^ I interviewed (www.degruyter.com)
  13. ^ Research (doi.org)
  14. ^ significant harm (doi.org)
  15. ^ Ahmad Gharabli/AFP via Getty Images (www.gettyimages.com)
  16. ^ far-right Israeli political party Noam (stljewishlight.org)
  17. ^ their LGBTQ children, siblings, friends and co-congregants (doi.org)
  18. ^ My book (www.barnesandnoble.com)
  19. ^ Shoval (www.shovalgroup.org)
  20. ^ Eshel (www.eshelonline.org)
  21. ^ Bar Ilan (www.facebook.com)
  22. ^ in the law school (www.reuters.com)
  23. ^ Jewish mourning ritual for the dead (www.myjewishlearning.com)
  24. ^ The Washington Post via Getty Images (www.gettyimages.com)
  25. ^ deviant and pathological (doi.org)
  26. ^ progressive rabbis and modern Orthodox rabbis (www.eshelonline.org)
  27. ^ I call (www.degruyter.com)
  28. ^ U.S. (statementofprinciplesnya.blogspot.com)
  29. ^ Israel (www.makorrishon.co.il)
  30. ^ policy paper (eng.beithillel.org.il)
  31. ^ arguing (blogs.timesofisrael.com)
  32. ^ officiated same-sex weddings (www.jta.org)

Authors: Orit Avishai, Professor of Sociology, Fordham University

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